Uncle Spielberg
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I was and I had/have the most amazing parents who I adore but there is a hole in my heart I have not filled and at 62 I am not sure I ever will. Anyone else the same ?
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[Help] Has anyone here been adopted ?
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By my own natural mother. She was a single mum in the 60s. But I kind get the sense of fear of missing out on something.
METALMICKY
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- Jan 30, 2004
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As a child I used to be bathed in cheap Australian lager........................turns out I was fostered! 
Uncle Spielberg
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Same I feel at that time she had no other option. Think of her every single day of my life
Oh, sorry. I stayed with my natural mother all through but I believe that she adopted me to ensure that my father would be unable to eject her from my life if he so chose to. I did not miss out on anything that I know of, but it led to a temporary fear of ‘what if she is not my natural mother?’.
Algernon
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I was adopted as a baby.
My Mum died when I was 21 and only then did I decide to seek out my birth mother as I wanted to know why I was given up and what my original family was like.
I didn't keep in touch with my birth mother but have stayed in close contact with a half brother and a half sister.
Now I realise that I had a much better life than if I'd not been adopted.
Why not do some research? What's stopping you?
We only live once, and we're here only for a relatively short while.
My Mum died when I was 21 and only then did I decide to seek out my birth mother as I wanted to know why I was given up and what my original family was like.
I didn't keep in touch with my birth mother but have stayed in close contact with a half brother and a half sister.
Now I realise that I had a much better life than if I'd not been adopted.
Why not do some research? What's stopping you?
We only live once, and we're here only for a relatively short while.
I’m not adopted so can’t pretend to know how you are feeling. Would it be worth you getting in touch with an adoption support group as there must be others who have similar feelings ? I was widowed in my early 30s and found talking about it helped a lot.
southstandandy
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I adopted a cat once - does that count?
I don’t think your comment is necessary on this thread.
Uncle Spielberg
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Not really needed tbh
Durlston
"You plonker, Rodney!"
I tell my biological mum and dad nearly every day that I love them, whether it's doing a shop for them, sending a text or popping in for an evening meal. Unlucky in love, yes, still searching for Mrs Right but they're the best parents in the world. ❤
- Apr 5, 2014
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I was fostered in November 1971 and adopted in June 1973. To save a long essay, you can have a cup of tea and read about it here. Or not, if you don't want to. An abbreviated piece based on wading through around 150 pages of documentation about my case.
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An Unmarketable Child- My Journey To Adoption 1969-1973
Years in the making, this entry contains references to letters, diaries and conversations of the period.
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I was adopted when I was two weeks old by an amazing family. When I had my own kids I found my birth mother, who turns out to be lovely. I never met my birth father. He died of covid 3 months before i found him.
If you need any support or encouragement @Uncle Spielberg, just ask.
If you need any support or encouragement @Uncle Spielberg, just ask.
But i don’t have any interest in the road that perhaps is troubling you GG, i was adopted at 3 months in 69,
I’ll just add my disappointment to that comment
Already into this thread isn’t wonderful to read we all had amazing childhoods and wonderful parents, we are truly blessed
- Apr 5, 2014
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Having only read the title of the thread, a cardinal sin really, I now read the full content of your post. I went through the process of tracing my birth parents in 1996 and, piecing together a dossier of documents, manged to do so. But there are things I would teach and counsel others on as a result of my experience. Aside of that though, it is important for folk to discuss their emotions on the subject. The problem is that, whilst almost everyone is kind and sympathetic, most cannot understand it fully unless they are fostered/adopted themselves. If ever you want to talk via message or in person I'll always be here for you.