Elderly parents, how are they coping?

[Deleted member 22389]

My mum is in here 80's and isn't adapting very well to the change at the moment. Her energy and well being is going down the pan at the moment. My brother of 39 still lives with her, suffers from anxiety caused by underlying health conditions and on top of that she's also missing her grand daughter and constantly worrying about us.

I'm trying my best to keep them supplied with food, telling them no too worry, just to stay in and keep safe. I'm trying to get her in to a pattern with regular phone calls with my daughter.

The reality is this could go on for another 12 - 16 weeks or even longer. It's a sad situation for all.

Once again my heart goes out to all these people who's parents are in Nursing homes, who are possibly having trouble getting any contact at all and those elderly parents who are living alone.

How is everyone else coping with their elderly parents?

 

[Palacefinder General]

There's no way my elderly parents would stay indoors for 3 days, let alone 12+ weeks. They do their own supermarket food shopping still, as do loads of oldies where they live. The message on that is a bit mixed for some - stay indoors, but we'll set aside an hour in the morning for you at the supermarkets.

 

[OzMike]

My wife's mother is 87 and she lives alone, her sister goes in regularly to see her, but she is a nurse and on the front line.
It would be terrible if she were to get infected from her.

 

[Petunia]

My mum is in here 80's and isn't adapting very well to the change at the moment. Her energy and well being is going down the pan at the moment. My brother of 39 still lives with her, suffers from anxiety caused by underlying health conditions and on top of that she's also missing her grand daughter and constantly worrying about us.

I'm trying my best to keep them supplied with food, telling them no too worry, just to stay in and keep safe. I'm trying to get her in to a pattern with regular phone calls with my daughter.

The reality is this could go on for another 12 - 16 weeks or even longer. It's a sad situation for all.

Once again my heart goes out to all these people who's parents are in Nursing homes, who are possibly having trouble getting any contact at all and those elderly parents who are living alone.

How is everyone else coping with their elderly parents?

There’s a few answers, mine included, on this thread. It’s a worrying time for us all.

https://nortr3nixy.nimpr.uk/showthread.php?379081-A-question-if-ones-parents-become-ill

 

[nicko31]

Got the old man using skype, its a bit of a lifesaver as he's starting to feel a bit isolated now

 

[Deleted member 22389]

There’s a few answers, mine included, on this thread. It’s a worrying time for us all.

https://nortr3nixy.nimpr.uk/showthread.php?379081-A-question-if-ones-parents-become-ill

Thank you, will take a look.

 

[Beach Hut]

With both parents in their 90s this is a major concern.

I can't go and see them as they live in Worcestershire however keep regular contact and fortunately one of my sisters lives round the corner and can ensure their wellbeing is looked after.

 

[AmexRuislip]

My mum is in a dementia care home being looked after, whilst my dad is at home keeping well, not being able to see me mum.
It's a struggle for him, my sister amd moi.

 

[WATFORD zero]

I'm pretty sure my mum is 85 (I think I said 84 yesterday) and she's coping fine, with me delivering her shopping.

The timing is fairly crap though, as my dad died last June and had been ill for some time. She had been his main carer and just about housebound for the last 5 years, other than shopping and the occasional day with us. It has taken her a while to build up a social network again and she had just got to the point where she was going to regular exercise and various social groups during the week, and had booked holidays for March and April when this all kicked off.

Just hope that she is fine and, when this is over, she can pick up all her various activities and holidays, where she left off again.

 

[BLOCK F]

My dad died last June aged 102 and my mum died aged 96 with Alzheimer's at the end of 2015.
My dad really wanted to go after mum died, but soldiered on until the end, living on his own, until the almost inevitable infection took hold in hospital.
He was a retired GP and a stubborn old goat; trying to help him was sometimes like pushing water up hill. I am thankful he went when he did.

 

[Thunder Bolt]

My mother is 91, and doesn't know who I am any more. Her care home is in lockdown. She won't know any different.

 

[AmexRuislip]

My mum is in a dementia care home being looked after, whilst my dad is at home keeping well, not being able to see me mum.
It's a struggle for him, my sister amd moi.

I forgot to mention my wifes parents.
Her father is on dialysis 3 times a week at Bexhill hospital, so being driven by patient transport which is down to 1 person per car.
The mother in law is great

 

[Palacefinder General]

I'm pretty sure my mum is 85 (I think I said 84 yesterday).

Classic, I can never remember if my mum's 83 or 84. Same with my dad, 78, possibly 79...or 77.

 

[Brighthelmstone]

My mum is in a dementia care home being looked after, whilst my dad is at home keeping well, not being able to see me mum.
It's a struggle for him, my sister amd moi.

Similar for us, dad in a dementia home and no visitors allowed.

 

[AmexRuislip]

Similar for us, dad in a dementia home and no visitors allowed.

Was planning on going down for mother's Day, but then this virus thingy interfered