people dont start claims if they're labeled Miss rather than Mrs or Dr. maybe should recognise the problem thats created isn't the gender identity, it's the aggressive enforcement by others.
So your argument then is that you don't think (some of) the claims are just. I'm sure some claims aren't just, but that's a different argument to whether people should have the right to be a man or woman.
I respect people's right to identify as male/female etc, and if I ever misgender someone I think it's highly unlikely they will sue me, and even less likely they'd win.