Craig Bellamy

[seagulls99]

Still don't like him but respect.

Craig Bellamy says Gary Speeds death left him so heartbroken it destroyed his marriage - Mirror Online

 

[big nuts]

Bit of a prick on the pitch but off the pitch apparently one of the nicest blokes in football, this article and his quotes back this up.

 

[Tom Hark Preston Park]

Sorry, but that article reads like complete and utter bollocks. WAY up there with the philosopher Joey Barton in the school of horseshit.

 

[Triggaaar]

Still don't like him but respect.

Respect? Because he's sad he lost his best friend and blames that for the loss of his marriage? If his marriage was as he says it was, they should still be working on it.

 

[16 bit 44.1]

Sorry, but that article reads like complete and utter bollocks. WAY up there with the philosopher Joey Barton in the school of horseshit.

There is no comparison at all!! Bellamy seems like a thoroughly decent bloke off the pitch and his foundation deserves more than a passing mention.

Craig Bellamy Foundation

Joey Barton just comes across as a tosser both on and off the pitch!

 

[DavidinSouthampton]

Sorry, but that article reads like complete and utter bollocks. WAY up there with the philosopher Joey Barton in the school of horseshit.

An enormously and far too cynical view.

Joey barton is clearly just a complete waste of space, but what reason has Craig Bellamy got to make this up.

I have always had a sneaking regard for him as a player - would rather have him playing for me than playing against me. But felt genuinely saddened by this story and I hope things sort out for him.

 

[Tom Hark Preston Park]

Apologies to all of the above. Was not being cynical in the least. Especially as having been through it myself. Fair enough the boy's marriage has failed. But you'd like to think that it was a long time in the failing, a cumulation of things building up over a long period of time, and that his best mate - at least at one time - would have been his wife. I have no doubt that Gary Speed's death had a profound effect on him, but it has to be more than a bit simplistic to blame it for his marriage falling apart. Shirley.

 

[DavidinSouthampton]

Apologies to all of the above. Was not being cynical in the least. Especially as having been through it myself. Fair enough the boy's marriage has failed. But you'd like to think that it was a long time in the failing, a cumulation of things building up over a long period of time, and that his best mate - at least at one time - would have been his wife.

No need to apologise.........

 

[Braders]

Respect? Because he's sad he lost his best friend and blames that for the loss of his marriage? If his marriage was as he says it was, they should still be working on it.

About a year or so ago this would have been my train of thought , but grieving and the surrounding factors can cause strain on relationships - pretty heartbreaking for him all around.

 

[Triggaaar]

About a year or so ago this would have been my train of thought , but grieving and the surrounding factors can cause strain on relationships

Grieving is one of many many things that can cause strain on relationships. It is sad that his relationship with his wife isn't working. I'm not sure I believe that's just down to the loss of his friend, his wife should be the person supporting him through this time, but either way, what I've questioned is why he deserves extra respect for this. He's sad that his best friend has died, but who wouldn't be.

 

[severnside gull]

Apologies in advance for getting on my high horse. Anyone who thinks mental illness is a sign of weakness can skip the little I have to offer.

If there is one small hope to come out of his situation it is that for some there might be a greater appreciation and understanding, not just for Craig Bellamy but for anyone who is similarly suffering. None of us know just what will or will not affect our mental wellbeing and how it might impact but, for absolute certain, if we suffer then those around us will suffer too.

For my wife it was the death of close family members that have followed and plagued her for years and resulted in dark moments that she struggles to manage whereas for me it was the death of a close friend in my arms that determined how I would structure the rest of my life. What was a negative and (literally) profoundly depressing circumstance for one of us proved, in a similar situation, to be life-reinforcing for the other. None of us know how we will be affected.

I am not a fan of Craig Bellamy - I have always thought of him as a bit of a twat who was too far up himself and that was reinforced when he refused to sing the national anthem when playing for Great Britain. I don't pretend to understand what is currently happening in his head or how it is affecting him and his family but what I do appreciate is that it is something which they will have to try to deal with and whatever riches he has from football and whatever professional help and support from friends and family they have may, or may still not, be enough. I wish him well in getting through. I'm not going to be tempted to say "just pick yourself up" because I know it really isn't that simple. I'm not going to be surprised if he learns a way of managing and I'm not going to be surprised if he fails. If that happens then he won't be a victim of celebrity but simply of life. It can happen to each and every one of us or to none of us and if it happens then not one of us knows for sure whether we will be able to find a way through.

The one thing his celebrity might bring is a less judgemental reaction from some than is sometimes the case when we jump in too easily with "our view" when it really isn't how we see it that matters

 

[ali jenkins]

Craig Bellamy might not be everyone's cup of tea but all I can see about him is that he is a hard working, dedicated man. He is way too good for the championship and could still do a great job for any premier league team but he is going to his home town team because he wants to work hard and get them into the premier league.

I would swap any Brighton player for him.

 

[Cardiff fan]

Truth is no-one ever knows what's going through a players mind. I hope with our support he'll return to his best physically and more importantly mentally. He seems in a bad way right now, but I hope playing football regularly will help him re-focus on life. If not, and he chooses to retire say, then I wish him all the best, there's more important things than football in life. Get well soon Bellers

 

[Falkor]

When i lost my best mate to SADS i had a complete mental break down still suffering it now, while his death was part of the issue to my break down the knock on effect was endless, myself and my ex tried to make the relationship work, but after 2 years of me being in a extreme depressive state, my ex decided it was best i left the house leaving my family, it was one of the hardest things i ever did walking out that house leaving my son behind there.

Depression on relationships is so bad, esp if the person really gets stuck in deep rut that they struggle to get out off.