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Charging family for Xmas dinner







Mr deez

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Jan 13, 2005
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Not read the article, but me and my family have chipped in for years. My sister does everything these days, just wouldn't be right if as well as having us all round it cost them hundreds.
 


vegster

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May 5, 2008
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Mrs V usually gets all the food and wine in for the family for Christmas... She then has to get " Contributions " with varying degrees of success from.the family. But, if she did not do it they would all sit on their hands.
 


The Clamp

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Fair enough chipping in to spread the cost but that woman's rules are ridiculous. I'd tell her to piss off. I can't imagine anyone wanting to spend the day with a money grubbing dick like that anyway.
 


GoldWithFalmer

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Apr 24, 2011
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***that link does not work for me

My mum used to have 13 at the table on xmas day,worked 3 part time jobs and raised 3 kids.

Now there are no world records there,point is she never asked for a penny,she is sadly departed but that was when the world was a slightly better place.

I can see the argument for and against,it's not cheap to do,personally i would not ask either but then again i probably would not host 13 anyway.
 




Goldstone1976

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Disclaimer: not read article, response being to thread title.

My ex proposed charging our kids £15 for Xmas dinner, starting the year after she'd given them the choice about whether they wanted to spend Xmas with me or her and they chose me. I shit you not. Oddly, they've never spent Xmas with her since she mooted the idea. They're all arriving today, 2 with boyfriends in tow; it's going to be messy.
 


Surf's Up

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Thin end of a potentially quite large wedge!! Start charging and your guests become clients and are entitled to expect certain standards (i.e. no soggy sprouts, rusty roasts, perfectly cooked meat etc etc etc). Any failure to meet these standards could result in complaints to the manager (???), no tip for the staff or a bad trip advisor review!!
 


Surf's Up

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****ing predictive text......rusty roasts should of course read crispy roasts!!!
 




GoldWithFalmer

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Thin end of a potentially quite large wedge!! Start charging and your guests become clients and are entitled to expect certain standards (i.e. no soggy sprouts, rusty roasts, perfectly cooked meat etc etc etc). Any failure to meet these standards could result in complaints to the manager (???), no tip for the staff or a bad trip advisor review!!

Compensation for food poisoning maybe,resulting in financial ruin.
 




Harry Wilson's tackle

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Dick Swiveller

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Hide a link to the Daily Nazi in a Google link? Very poor form.
 




We had 24 family round for Xmas dinner a few years ago as the wife wanted one more Christmas with everyone knowing full well her dad wouldn't make another one. hired a marquee, tables, chairs, got all the food in from cash and carry, got the wines and beers roughly £500.

Never asked for a penny.


When all had gone we were clearing up and found an envelope with £200 in.
 


Reagulls

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Jul 22, 2013
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I might work out how much I need to charge them so I can get mine for free, only seems fair having organised it all.
I'll just call it a tip :wink:
 


The Clamp

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People who like to host for many are usually either show offs or want to be martyrs. The sort of people that do all the fun stuff like cooking, it is fun, delegate all the peeling and slicing to someone else and then when the shitty jobs like clearing and washing up are due, pour a large glass of something and flop onto a chair declaring "that's me, I'm not lifting another finger until New Year".
 


AmexRuislip

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Feb 2, 2014
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The table is set, the champagne’s on ice and crackers sit by the plates.
All that remains is for the guests to arrive for Christmas lunch, where they will be welcomed with open arms.
As long as they have paid up in advance, that is.
This is the reality of Christmas Day festivities at the home of Leah Wright this year.
She has invited 12 people — all family — to celebrate with her and her partner, Andrew Fuller, at their comfortable home in South London.
Yet she has made it clear that guests can only attend if they pay her £60 per couple for the privilege.
And if you’re coming without a plus one?
Too bad.
Leah’s mother and sister are attending without partners and must still fork out £60 each.
Not only that, but Leah insists on having the money in advance — cash or a bank transfer directly into the couple’s account.
For providing the lunch, she has a budget of just over £400.
It’s a sum that will leave Leah with a profit from her guests’ contributions, and cover the cost of her own and Andrew’s Christmas lunch.
And her guests won’t even get a glass of wine for their £60 fee — they have been asked to bring a bottle with them.


This, absolute tosh, family traditional meal has gone out of the window.
In my grandparents day, we all used to go round (about 12 people), with each family chipping in with certain items of food and drink.
Too commercialised I'm afraid.
 




People who like to host for many are usually either show offs or want to be martyrs. The sort of people that do all the fun stuff like cooking, it is fun, delegate all the peeling and slicing to someone else and then when the shitty jobs like clearing and washing up are due, pour a large glass of something and flop onto a chair declaring "that's me, I'm not lifting another finger until New Year".

I can assure you I am neither a show off or a martyr.

I would however never do that again.
 


The Clamp

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I can assure you I am neither a show off or a martyr.

I would however never do that again.

I was referring more to women. Men can host for as many as they like and still not get all red faced and "look at me" about it. Women do seem to take it all a bit seriously.

Except for what I call the "now, this is how you cook a steak" type of man who cooks one big meal once every two months and insists he knows everything about food and cooking.
 


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