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Can you be friends with an Ex???
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British Bulldog
The great escape
- Feb 6, 2006
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Goodfella said:
That becomes the time to dump your new partner then! If they cant accept who you are and who your friends are then your new relationship is going nowhere. Jealousy is the route of all evil in any relationship.
British Bulldog said:
You can kind of see their point though.
If she's an ex then by definition you've fancied her in the past, so chances are you still do. In truth you probably DO want to sleep with her [just as mates, like], so your current missus is probably right!
British Bulldog
The great escape
- Feb 6, 2006
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hans kraay fan club said:
I can see where your coming from but looking at it from a different angle should you need to justify to a current partner who you have slept with in the past? And should the current partner be able to dictate whether or not you can be friends with the ex?
British Bulldog said:
Of course she shouldn't dictate, but you can't expect to spend time with somebody you've shared bodily fluids with over a period of time, and for her to not feel jealous. Its human nature.
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- Jul 25, 2006
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stay friends and then there is always the reunion pissed up shag 5 years later.
Scotty Mac
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- Jul 13, 2003
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i am friends with virtually all of my exs, just dont see the point in hating them really
Meade's Ball
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A woman and i were emotionally entwined for 5 torrid, unhygenic years a decade or so ago. Her and i separated. Not from our loathsome feelings for the other. Just couldn't go on, so departure and split ends seemed the healthiest way.
Anyway, her and i began to talk again about a year or so later. Pretty much always on email. She'd tried to kill herself, apparently, at the behest of my actions, she says, and felt it necessary to tell me things like that. I didn't mind. It was important to her, and quite interesting to hear a little of any damage i accidentally caused. So, her and i discussed things and then just kept up to scratch with each other's lives as they continued. All the while, though, there was a comfortable reliance in each other's words. We knew the elements of humour and deceit immersed in every sentence, and rarely got confused or had to work toward understanding. It was easy, clean and unsexual.
After about 3 years though, and each of us maybe finding physical partners to be wrapped in of evenings, we decided it best to finish this talk. There remained an uninvited, but unstoppable closeness that perhaps impaired the solidity of our actions elsewhere. Always doubts, and reminders of how wrong we were. Both childishly believing one's first love is sort of that forever.
Anyway, we stopped. And neither of us feels any worse. I know she was phoned by my mum when i got hospitalised, just in case she heard from elsewhere i lay at death's door or might want to do something about it. She would porbably have done something stupid like pray. Dumb-arse theist.
Anyway, her and i began to talk again about a year or so later. Pretty much always on email. She'd tried to kill herself, apparently, at the behest of my actions, she says, and felt it necessary to tell me things like that. I didn't mind. It was important to her, and quite interesting to hear a little of any damage i accidentally caused. So, her and i discussed things and then just kept up to scratch with each other's lives as they continued. All the while, though, there was a comfortable reliance in each other's words. We knew the elements of humour and deceit immersed in every sentence, and rarely got confused or had to work toward understanding. It was easy, clean and unsexual.
After about 3 years though, and each of us maybe finding physical partners to be wrapped in of evenings, we decided it best to finish this talk. There remained an uninvited, but unstoppable closeness that perhaps impaired the solidity of our actions elsewhere. Always doubts, and reminders of how wrong we were. Both childishly believing one's first love is sort of that forever.
Anyway, we stopped. And neither of us feels any worse. I know she was phoned by my mum when i got hospitalised, just in case she heard from elsewhere i lay at death's door or might want to do something about it. She would porbably have done something stupid like pray. Dumb-arse theist.
Clothes Peg
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- Mar 3, 2007
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My newest ex (as of yesterday) said to me "I never want to see you again". I guess that's a pretty conclusive NO.
Gully
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Umm, from my experience that might suggest that he is not interested in a future friendship, but to offer a glimmer of hope...most men are fickle, he may calm down a little with time.