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I find at 53 I can only make a best fist of things 3 times a week max.
Go to Australia while you are young enough to work there!
A typical ignorant comment, regarding matters such as that of the OP's.
OGH's Libido
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- Nov 30, 2014
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Yes, I went through something similar.
I'm 3 years older than you, and some of what you are going through happened to me when I was 2 years younger than you are now. So 5 years ago.
I quit my job in quite messy circumstances while I was working in London. I'd made a life with a girl at that time and we broke up pretty abruptly too. My life in London had revolved around her, and suddenly I was very exposed.
What I did that was good:
1. Went home to Mum & Dad, and talked it over. Got some valuable advice and ideas, and of course didn't have to worry about rent. It wasn't a tail between the legs situation, it was about getting a breather and listening to people who knew me better than I did.
2. Talked to my friends who would listen - turned out it was refreshing having someone around who'd been at home bored all day and wanted to do something in the evenings, unlike their work friends.
3. Looked for something that I'd LOVE to do. I'd been miserable, so finding something that made me halfway happy was the key. All other considerations didn't matter. I was 24, you're only 26. I remember thinking **** it, the remainder of my 20's are for me. That became my motto. And frankly, as I near my 30s, I might extend that motto my another decade.
4. When I found my new work I threw myself into sports clubs and bars. Where I could, I went on a bit of a bender (this part might actually be terrible advice, but it worked for me). I was celebrating the decision I made and met a lot of people this way.
5. When the dust settled a bit, I began to think about my future career, and how to get there. It took about 2 years for the dust to settle because I was so happy I'd moved on, but I decided to go get more qualifications on the CV - the goal was to be better than I was when all this mess started.
From what you've said, you are the kind of person about whom people never seem to think is in trouble, even when others in the same situation would be adjudged to be in crisis - am I right? If so, It's annoying, and I know the feeling. Sometimes you feel that you don't get the support others do. But the flip side is that you can use it to your advantage. Being perceived as someone who is good in a crisis and always on an even keel will definitely come back to benefit you - and probably soon.
I'm sorry to hear that things haven't gone the way you'd like, but I think you will amaze yourself at how quickly you can turn it around.
Nibble
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- Jan 3, 2007
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That may be so to you but I've been in a very similar situation to the OP several times in my life ,the details of which I won't go into. I bet my suggestion would help more than most on here.
Each to their own i guess.
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A house share is a great way to meet new people. I went through a very messy relationship break up when I was 31 and moved from the house we owned to a house share in Putney. I immediately bonded with the others there, particularly with the 21 year old Welsh nymphomaniac in the room above mine, and had a brilliant social life for a few years, before getting back on the straight and narrow.
Alright, alright. This thread is about empathy, not making everyone jealous.
Seagull58
In the Algarve
This is absolutely right. I have gone through more than 1 period when I've been alone with little social life and wondered what on earth would happen. Feel confident that life will work out the way you want. Think positive but also do some thinking about your work and career and what your options are. Maybe join a sports club if you're into sports?Its quite normal mate,don't be too hard on yourself,26 is a puppy tbh. Make sure you like/love yourself and things will happen for you in the future.
Good luck and take care(as others have said exercise is a boost)
Seagull58
In the Algarve
That's a load of rubbish! I moved to South Africa aged51 having been divorced for 7 years and feeling I was stuck in a rut. I've had the best 5 years of my life and expect it to get better and better.
Don't give up on life!
True I went out to Australia and NZ for a year aged over 40. Whilst I could not legally obtain work under a travel visa, I was able to support myself.
If you are 26 I believe you can (or could) work out in Oz with a permit, I don't know about NZ though. But the age-limit barrier is close to that (or was).
If you are 26 I believe you can (or could) work out in Oz with a permit, I don't know about NZ though. But the age-limit barrier is close to that (or was).
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1066gull
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Inspiring. Thank you for taking the time in sharing this. I've only just read it.
xx
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1066gull
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You're not the first person to have told me that. So many people close to me have said that too
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1066gull
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I never saw it like that about being in the majority before. Also the funny thing about this thread is that not even after 24 hours after I started it when I was working long hours by myself as I decided to save a bit to do some travelling I had one of the people who I was sharing a house with break in to my room and assault me. Something that was not my fault but I he was a bully who I was forced to live with. Anyway moving on I finally escaped a month later. I didn't go to the police initially but than it happened again which is when I did. For the past 10 days I've been back at my parents but I have been going up to London every day for my job. I now have come to a dilemma in my life what I really want to do. I either continue struggling to live in London but I am around some of the people I dearly care about although I may not see them everyday and there is the chance I can meet new friends or I move to Brighton and start again in a new job. I already have some friends I speak to as regularly and if not more than my friends up in London.
There is also the remote possibility of even relocating up north but I only will do that with somebody. Right now I am not sure if anything will happen but this person has been there for me at my absolute lowest recently.
Justice
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Paul Barber certainly does go beyond the call of duty at times.
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