A mex eyecan
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- Nov 3, 2011
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So having spent the last 24 months dealing with Mum, Dad, Uncles and dear old Aunts, getting them safe and sound, sorting various care along with funerals I’ve decided that no matter what i do, including trying to halt time, my ultimate time up isn't going to be inevitable and I want to do and organise everything I can to make dealing with my possible senility, illness or just death as easy as possible for my children. The work in sorting other peoples affairs have shown me how important taking time to organise your affairs is for others peoples benefit.
So I’ve tried my hardest to get everything in order, filed and sorted so that should over the next 20 odd years (hopefully) should the aeroplane i fly in for my holidays decide to fall out if the sky, or that nasty No5 bus driver decide he didn’t see me crossing the road that when my time comes dealing with my funeral and personal affairs will be easier for my kids.
My wife and I have been and purchased a nice little plot for our ashes to be buried together in a wonderful natural burial site at the foot of the Sussex downs.
We’ve both written and listed our wishes for our funerals etc. I’ve listed 4 particular songs I want playing that mean an awful lot to me, and written a few brief words as to why I’ve chosen them. Ive found it surprising how incredibly emotional I have found putting my reasons into word.
The words to, and my interpretation of, first record always makes me stop, check, and really appreciate what a lucky man I am, to have met my wonderful wife when I was 17, she just 15. How she completely captivated and fascinated me, even at that time when I was some piss headed punk. After getting on for 50 plus years together, she still just amazes me (on the odd occasion coz I just can’t understand her). What a wife and mother she is. What fate or chance made me ‘see’ her across everyone else that night? The words to the song I didn’t appreciate until many years after, but If iI was ever to be so blessed to able to write a song to her then these would without doubt be them.
I‘m even now at a stage where I’ve started to make a playlist for around 2 hours worth of music that I just love which could be a back ground at any wake that may be organised.
Again with each song I’m listing ‘why’ I’ve chosen it. The music for me is proving to be easy yet there hundreds of records I love, reducing that lifetime list to a 2 hour playlist is very very hard indeed.
This whole process has made me really sit down and take stock of a great 65 plus odd years i’ve enjoyed, and hated, in this here planet. I never ever thought I was an emotional person, by by god facing up to all the issues time has thrown at me over the last 2 years has shown me that I am, and that it is something to embrace not be embarrassed by.
So, have any of you folks done, tried to do, done with ease, such a thing?
Im sure I know that I am in an incredibly reflective moment of life right now, Seeing old age all around you cannot do anything other than to influence and play havoc with your mindset, emotions and life summary thought processes.
Don‘t please list a summary of music, that’s so very very personal, just interested to see if I’m alone in this place or if others are there or maybe come out of the other side.
So I’ve tried my hardest to get everything in order, filed and sorted so that should over the next 20 odd years (hopefully) should the aeroplane i fly in for my holidays decide to fall out if the sky, or that nasty No5 bus driver decide he didn’t see me crossing the road that when my time comes dealing with my funeral and personal affairs will be easier for my kids.
My wife and I have been and purchased a nice little plot for our ashes to be buried together in a wonderful natural burial site at the foot of the Sussex downs.
We’ve both written and listed our wishes for our funerals etc. I’ve listed 4 particular songs I want playing that mean an awful lot to me, and written a few brief words as to why I’ve chosen them. Ive found it surprising how incredibly emotional I have found putting my reasons into word.
The words to, and my interpretation of, first record always makes me stop, check, and really appreciate what a lucky man I am, to have met my wonderful wife when I was 17, she just 15. How she completely captivated and fascinated me, even at that time when I was some piss headed punk. After getting on for 50 plus years together, she still just amazes me (on the odd occasion coz I just can’t understand her). What a wife and mother she is. What fate or chance made me ‘see’ her across everyone else that night? The words to the song I didn’t appreciate until many years after, but If iI was ever to be so blessed to able to write a song to her then these would without doubt be them.
I‘m even now at a stage where I’ve started to make a playlist for around 2 hours worth of music that I just love which could be a back ground at any wake that may be organised.
Again with each song I’m listing ‘why’ I’ve chosen it. The music for me is proving to be easy yet there hundreds of records I love, reducing that lifetime list to a 2 hour playlist is very very hard indeed.
This whole process has made me really sit down and take stock of a great 65 plus odd years i’ve enjoyed, and hated, in this here planet. I never ever thought I was an emotional person, by by god facing up to all the issues time has thrown at me over the last 2 years has shown me that I am, and that it is something to embrace not be embarrassed by.
So, have any of you folks done, tried to do, done with ease, such a thing?
Im sure I know that I am in an incredibly reflective moment of life right now, Seeing old age all around you cannot do anything other than to influence and play havoc with your mindset, emotions and life summary thought processes.
Don‘t please list a summary of music, that’s so very very personal, just interested to see if I’m alone in this place or if others are there or maybe come out of the other side.
