Is violence ever the answer?

[Lokki 7]

Here's one for you. My sister went out with a twat for a couple of years. He was an annoying little prick and pissed me off on several occasions making inappropiate personal remarks and comments but I let every one go for the sake of my sister and pretended to get on with the prick. When she dumped him awhile ago he gave her a few farewell slaps. When I discovered this (she was bruised) I went mental and wanted to go and pay my respects but both my sister and wife wouldn't let me. I eventually calmed down, gave in and did nothing.
I have just discovered that he is back on the scene. Now of course my sis would go nuts if I chinned him, but doing so would not only be payback, it would make him think twice next time. I am very tempted to do this when I see him and he attempts to shake my hand. Would this be wrong? If so, what should I do instead?

 

[Basil Fawlty]

I would hit the c***.

 

[bhafc4eva]

If he has slapped her i don't think i could resist giving him a little lesson!

 

[Barrel of Fun]

You need to give your sister a thoroughly good telling off. This prat will not change and demand that she have more self respect for herself.

I would be tempted to lamp the bastard if someone hit my sister, but if it is going to cause friction with your wife and sister then it is not worth it.

Show her that she is worth 10,000 of him and that she must see that.

 

[Les Biehn]

Such a toughy. I would seriously want to tell him to get f***ed and lay one on him but that could just get you in more shit. Try to find a way to get rid and f*** him over at the same time.

 

[Brighton till i die]

any bloke who raises a hand to a woman...ANY BLOKE.........deserves a f***ing pasting!

most wankerish thing to do in my view!

 

[Simon Morgan]

tell the guy what an absolute nobend you think he is. sometimes words speak louder than actions

 

[Grendel]

Cut his bollocks off with a rusty spoon.

 

[algie]

Any of my family get hurt physically then i personally would seek revenge.

 

[Uncle Buck]

I think the approach is probably to have a quiet word with him along the lines of what will happen if he ever raises a hand to your sister again.

With any luck he will then take a swing at you, so you can lay in and yet he started it.

 

[CHAPPERS]

I think the approach is probably to have a quiet word with him along the lines of what will happen if he ever raises a hand to your sister again.

This would be my way out too.

 

[Man of Harveys]

Difficult one though, irredeemable tosser though this individual is, BoF is right - talk to your sister, tell her how you feel about this. Because if there's a rift between you and her as a result, she might not be as protected from this lowlife as it sounds like she might need to be. Christ, what a wanker.

BTW, apropos nothing at all to do with this, what does the Finnish word "jaata" mean, with umlauts on every "a"? Is it "ice"?

 

[Beach Hut]

The guy will never change you need to get your sister out of the situation and if it means a slapping (not something I would normally advocate) it has to happen.

In 6 months time this will be a domestic violence issue something that happened next door to us a few years back and it was not much fun to live next to.

 

[Dick Knights Mumm]

Your sister needs to get a grip. A bloke who hits her is the last thing she needs. There are plenty of decent honest blokes out there.

This bloke needs to be prosecuted. Hitting him is something he understands.

And don't shake his hand - you kept quiet last time for the sake of your sister - giving him the benefit of the doubt. This time there is no doubt.

 

[Kylies Stunt Arse]

I think the approach is probably to have a quiet word with him along the lines of what will happen if he ever raises a hand to your sister again.

With any luck he will then take a swing at you, so you can lay in and yet he started it.

That would be my approach too. I would probably have a word with your sister too.

 

[Lokki 7]

Thanks everyone for your thoughts. I've being mulling this for a few days now and just can't find the best way to handle it. I desperately want to lay him out but I know this just drags me down to his level. It will also piss off my wife, sister and have possible legal consequences. Not to mention setting a bad example to my sisters kids. But as has been mentioned, he is the lowest of the low and is surely deserving of more than just a quiet word? It seems like he is getting away with it.

 

[aftershavedave]

I think the approach is probably to have a quiet word with him along the lines of what will happen if he ever raises a hand to your sister again.

With any luck he will then take a swing at you, so you can lay in and yet he started it.

wise words

 

[Dick Knights Mumm]

Speak to the Police. The law on domestic violence has changed recently - they do not need the victim's permission to prosecute. You need to be up to speed on the legal options available to you.

 

[Lokki 7]

BTW, apropos nothing at all to do with this, what does the Finnish word "jaata" mean, with umlauts on every "a"? Is it "ice"?

Yes

 

[chez]

I reckon you should just tell him whos boss, let him know what will happen if he ever treats her badly again. If it is obvious to him that you would give him a pasting then a sincere threat will stay in his memory for a long time.